tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post4826077160982694726..comments2023-03-27T03:29:21.905-06:00Comments on Cadbury covers it...: I have been officially diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome and Non-Verbal Learning Disorder (NLD/NVLD)cadbury_vwhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05586691027424256752noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post-86518682206599633462010-12-03T16:27:11.548-06:002010-12-03T16:27:11.548-06:00okay, I have read all of it now and am not quite a...okay, I have read all of it now and am not quite as Pissy about you meeting Pissy!<br />You know what I take from this - HOPE! for my Sam. You have this beautiful rich full life AND a diagnosis. <br />I have loved and adored you from the start. I feel the same now. You have always been here for me. As I am here for you now and always!t_colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255590452727957539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post-9839313915903615552010-12-03T16:20:42.059-06:002010-12-03T16:20:42.059-06:00Had ti skip to the bottom and write this before fi...Had ti skip to the bottom and write this before finishing the entry--<br />HOW IN THE HELL DID PISSY GET TO MEET YOU AND I DIDN'T??????t_colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255590452727957539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post-9168309932967360422010-11-28T18:55:30.937-06:002010-11-28T18:55:30.937-06:00Cad, you are SO right: I HAVE met you in person a...Cad, you are SO right: I HAVE met you in person and adored you (and Smitten) in person just as much as I have on your blog all these years. :)<br /><br />I'm glad for you that you've gotten answers.<br /><br />Now just keep on being you!<br /><br />xoxo<br /><br />PissyBig Pissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024226667518288383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post-85551683813700322892010-11-27T11:05:46.833-06:002010-11-27T11:05:46.833-06:00PS
You don't have to be "fixed." You...PS<br />You don't have to be "fixed." You are already whole, and your sister's aggressive turnaround makes me grimace and pray that she changes her stance to something vastly more supportive and objective.Mouthy Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13390913450937641605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post-27122403455567428532010-11-27T11:04:32.374-06:002010-11-27T11:04:32.374-06:00I have taught several kids with Asperger's as ...I have taught several kids with Asperger's as well as several who are on the more severe end of the autism spectrum. Although there are some "usual" aspects to people who have been diagnosed with Asperger's, everyone's different - including you. <br /><br />Although there is some communication/emotional aspects linked to the syndrome, nothing is tried and true for all people. Some of the kids I know with the "label" are the most emotionally "in-touch," loving, and compassionate people I've ever met. Others, not so much. The main component I've seen that's consistent is that people need to feel trust and love from those around them in order to see past the wall that is Asperger's. I've seen past your wall as have Terry, Smitten, Pissy, TCole, and many others. This is due to the fact that you let us in. <br /><br />YOU allowed it to happen. You are Cadbury - you are NOT Asperger's and NLD/NVLD. Allow the diagnosis to help you gain more insight rather than slap a label on yourself.<br /><br />I'm so glad you feel that the news has validated feelings and experiences you've had throughout life. Thanks for trusting us the update.Mouthy Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13390913450937641605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post-2022820494971004072010-11-27T09:42:36.379-06:002010-11-27T09:42:36.379-06:00Terry, Sicilian: thank-you for coming and reading ...Terry, Sicilian: thank-you for coming and reading and your comments<br /><br />----<br /><br />i'm ok with the diagnosis. i have known i am a little different for my whole life, and i can live with me. i'm more concerned about how others will react.<br /><br />my sister's highly negative and demanding reaction threw me off. mom and dad were surprisingly calm about it - and dad interested in being tested himself, but my sister...<br /><br />as i have examined my universe, i have discovered that most of my friends actually like me (strange thought, hey?) and accept me. my family and my ex (and some of the friends i attached myself to) felt it was their duty and right to point out my life failures.<br /><br />that familial demand for perfection and criticism of not meeting that bar was/is high. i am in a state of some anxiety as it is my dad's birthday and my sister has flown home for the weekend - will be going to pick her up from the airport shortly. she was fine while she was at harvard, but since she went back to work (with a promotion) she has been a total bag.<br /><br />it is fairly huge thing to have permission to just be me - that's one of the things the diagnosis does for me. it becomes a shield in my mind to allow me to say "fuck you" when i don't meet that bar. i then get to meet my own bar - and i'm a softie (just ask my kids) full of permissiveness and generosity and forgiveness<br /><br />so i'm good with me<br /><br />but my sister pushed buttons i hadn't anticipated and left me quite flat footed when we talked. <br /><br />my best friend's response to the news "Don't worry, I still love you"<br /><br />smitten's response, even before the diagnosis was complete (humourous voice): "I'll still love you even if you are an aspie" with a wonderful lilt in her voice<br /><br />my sister's response: "And now what? What are you going to do with this information? a diagnosis is just a tool. what are you going to do to fix it?"<br /><br />i had expected a rational discussion of the diagnosis and how there may be affect in the rest of the family and what benefits would flow from it - she had been supportive of the investigation previously, but then poof - aggressive - if we can help the kids and help ourselves then this would be a good thing for our family, i thoughtbut instead this was all about me and fixing me<br /><br />not us as a group<br /><br />----<br /><br />got to go pick her up now - Talk to you latercadbury_vwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05586691027424256752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post-4479070541507226612010-11-26T22:47:19.931-06:002010-11-26T22:47:19.931-06:00Before I read your post I googled Aspergers. . . ....Before I read your post I googled Aspergers. . . . . I think it is good to know. . . I think it may answer lots of questions . . . . and I think there may be others in your family who will relate. . . . even if they don't want to relate.<br />I get the feeling that you are a bit overwhelmed right now. . . . don't let the diagnosis define you. . . . you've made it a lot of years. . . . use this information to your advantage. . . . <br />CiaoSicilianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478918266290454362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15763122.post-55541533936131374562010-11-26T21:10:19.267-06:002010-11-26T21:10:19.267-06:00"(can you feel the "OMG - they might thi..."(can you feel the "OMG - they might think i'm not perfect" panic creeping into this post? i can...)"<br /><br />stop it. stop it right now.<br /><br />no one is perfect. NO ONE. especially not the people who think they are.<br /><br />the only one who expects you to be perfect is you.<br /><br />i'm glad you're learning more about yourself, but don't put yourself in any box while you do.<br /><br />as you say, you are you. and you are enough.terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758974079951716931noreply@blogger.com