Monday, April 23, 2007

former business partner

ran into my former business partner tonight. we were both teaching night classes at the post-secondary institution we teach part-time at.

(historical note: i got him the teaching job and his current day job after the business collapsed. he'd had his sort of break-down near the end of the business and his wife was still going to school [she's an engineer now] and they seriously needed the money)

we've known each other/run the same circles/been friends since i was 13. he's about 3 years older than me. he was there almost every day through the most of the marriage.

anyway, he was teaching. we said hi on the ay in, but ran into each other in the parking lot. we stood and talked for about an hour about this and that.

the one interesting line. he said:

"I never really said it to you before, because we haven't really talked since you split... but, she never gave you a chance, man. never gave you chance.you couldn't move without her being on you..."

why am i writing this? because i still have to justify my own actions to myself. because every day i wake up and think about things related to the split and the breakdown/break-up i have to tell myself that the decision was the correct one, and that even with the difficulties my children are going through, that a living father asserting himself instead of being trampled is better for them in the lang run, even with the short term problems.

4 comments:

Balloon Pirate said...

I'm with you on this one, man. Keep doing the next right thing.

yeharr

Sicilian said...

Mr. C. . . I think you just had to get that confirmation from someone outside. . . . you are doing the right thing.
Ciao

terry said...

a HAPPY father is more important to them, in the short term and the long term.

you've done the right thing. one day you'll be shocked that you ever thought differently.

Big Pissy said...

You have absolutely done the right thing.