took my daughter to get a properly fitted bra last saturday
i have bought her underwear and bras before
caught shit from the stbx about the stuff i bought and allowed daughter to pick
daughter wanted more interesting underwear than granny whites - you know - jersey material with a little lace on the bottom - not white - slightly different cut - but nothing out of line
stbx spazzed - and then ended up wearing daughter's underwear... daughter was pissed. yeah - the stbx has baoundary issues... stbx said she didn't remember they were daughter's (bullshit)
i think it's a little greebly to wear someone else's underwear...
anyway,
daughter wears her bra 24/7 pretty much. says she just feels more comfortable wearing it. i have expressed my concern about it because of linkages between long term 24 hour bra wearing and breast cancer (theorised that it has to do with constriction of lymph nodes under arms, blah, blah...)
but daughter wore this one bra until the elastic came out. she said it was just so much more comfortable than the others.
so when the elastic came out i made an appointment with a specialty/specialist bra/lingerie place in town (hey - my mom orders her special 4 wire steel truss bras there [she's a busty lady]). i have made special orders over the last 27 years at the place for women in my life. it's a good place.
i took daughter there. daughter was worried it would cost too much.
i told her to not listen to her mother's bullshit and that there were better places to get bras than bargain bins.
about an hour later we had one. the ladies there were very pleased that i would bring daughter in (especially at age 12) and took a bunch of time to explain to daughter how everything should fit and be fitted.
as daughter was still awkward about getting fitted and such, while she was in the fitting room i gave some parameters for the bra - i explained to ladies that the bra needed to have a bit of padding to cover up nipple moments when they might show through a T-shirt. the ladies gave me an odd look until i finished my sentence about the fact that she is surrounded by moronic grade 7 boys - they immediately understood why daughter would NOT want to be nipplish around 12 year old boys...
i also explained the 24 hour bra wearing and told them it need to be ultra comfortable and forgiving
it turns out that daughter is now a C cup now instead of the B she thought she was and that is part of the reasons the other bras didn't fit comfortably - and that the way the others fit with daughters build would cause damage to her breast tissue over time.
daughter nearly crapped when the bill for it was over $120.00
while i was a little stunned (i was expecting maybe $80 or $90), i didn't blink. it was an important moment to underline the importance of properly fitting bras to daughter.
she asked me later why i would spend that much and i gave her the lecture about backaches and all the rest. about good shoes and good bras and avoiding pain and suffering.
i reminded her not to let the bra out of her sight around her mother...
we didn't discuss it at all after the ride home, but i believe that it was an important moment for her and the way she views her bra and money
“All I want is for the baby to be healthy!”
8 months ago
6 comments:
Mr. C. . . . I can't even imagine at age 12 saying the word bra in front of my dad or now at 48 talking to my dad about a bra. You did a fantastic job with her, and I am glad you got her some nice bras. It has taken me years to realize that there are some things that you need to spend money on. . . . a good bra or two is one of them.
Ciao
Holy shit on a stick, Batman.
I SO want to go to that store.
Strike that.
I SO want you to go to that store with my measurements and buy me a cool-ass bra!
Good job on the Daddy Duty.
C.. u are the coolest dad.. number 1.. also tell her to hand wash that bra.. it will last longer... she really should not sleep in the bra.. if she likes the comfort.. get her a sports bra with a shelf bra built in it so she can sleep in that.. sometimes they have sports bras with individual cups so she does not end up with a monoboob.. lol.. but that way she can still sleep in the bra.. if she wants.. that store sounds great.. wish they had one here like that.. having a breast reduction in 1989 i really know the importance of a good fit.. comfort and support.. Great Dad duty CaD!
You are my hero, and your daughter's as well. As you said, she learned about $ and bras, but more importantly about how valuable her body is not only to her but to you as her father. That to me was the important lesson. She is worth more than any bra that was for sale in that shop.
My Coconut at age 13 wears a larger sized bra than I do. I only wish I knew of a place here that could do the same thing. I also agree about finding a sleeping bra and handwashing it as well as never putting it in the drier. Shame on her mom for stealing her other undergarments. Maybe you can buy her the ready made name tags that can be sewn into her clothing so mom can't make that "innocent" mistake again.
On another note, I've never heard or read the word, "greebly" before. Something new for me.
W.
Wein's first paragraph said it better than I ever could. :)
You are the awesomeist!
This made me think of the time my mom took me to J.C.P. to get my first bra. Naturally, my brother tagged along. I will never forget him saying, yes...so everyone could hear it, "Don't know why she needs a 'braw', she ain't got no buzzards!" I wanted to die.
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