"I thought you loved me so much you would never leave me, so I didn't ever consider what I might be doing to you with what I said and did."
did you miss that everyone?
let me repeat it in bold
"I thought you loved me so much you would never leave me, so I didn't ever consider what I might be doing to you with what I said and did."
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Do you honestly want to know what I think about such a hateful, self-serving statement?
Kristin:
when i received your post, i assumed that you might not have read through the entire blog
but i wasn't sure
so i went back and read that last post and re-read her statement from the lens/filter your statement provided
to be honest, i think that mrs_c's comment was meant as an apology of sorts... or at least an explanation of her behaviour.
mrs_c has only admitted to making 3 mistakes in her life (outside of "professional" mistakes in some specific task or job she was doing [oh, i picked the wrong colour for the kitchen. oh, i should have started supper earlier. oops, wrong turn]).
i think her statement is as far as she can go toward an apology
i finally pinned mrs_c down on a response to the question: name one thing you believe you have done wrong during our marriage, or one problem that is your fault or that you are responsible for
her answer:
I shouldn't have been so hard on you or been so mean to you about the things you did. It was wrong of me to be that mean.
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The 'think of yourself first' part still holds, I believe. But I will read your entire blog, before I offer any unsolicited goody-2-shoes again.
I am sorry,
Kristin
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um, no sweat
thank-you for taking the time to read, and to care about some dude you don't really know
that means a lot to me.
to be honest, i
oops, i missed deleting that last word string
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i put the additional comments on the front page
Kristin wrote:
In the unlikely event that you do get back together, I shall stand back and speak only when spoken to. Taking sides is a tricky matter and there is a price to pay, if I am wrong, I know.
the possibility, however unlikely, exists that we won't split. I have not discarded all hope of some "breakthrough".
i just do not think it is realistic.
if we stay together, or get back together after splitting, i would not find any fault in any of the things you have written.
because they are true.
i do not subscribe to a blindly protective policy of family (or friends). i will defend to the death, but i will do it knowing all their qualities and all their faults.
if i choose to go continue with mrs_c it will be with context and with the acceptance of that context, not ignoring or forgetting it.
things i have said about her, and to her, will stand. things my friends have said will stand.
if anything you said (or will say) were inaccurate or unfair, i would correct it - i will still act honourably.
taking a side is often tricky. i'm just a little odd, and don't react quite the same way as many others.
Kristin:
another question for your list:
"Among the two of you ..."
who has any friends?
that would be a checkmark in the Cadbury column...
who has no friends (co-workers don't count in this context unless you go to their houses and speak/socialise with them outside a work context), except for her sister (and mother)?
yep, mrs_c.
i think that little factoid speaks to some truth of my universe.
even the friends i have slowly tried to drag into our lives to socialise with as a couple, mrs_c has been pushing away and refusing to do things with.
mutter, mutter
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