i get home this morning from Smitten's. There is a voice mail from daughter. She is telling me that her mother is not home. It's almost midnight when the message was left. Daughter did not call me on my cell (i have since given explicit instructions [again] to call me on my cell because i might not be home).
Son calls me after school, tells me that their mother left. Said she was going for a pack of smokes. Gone for 2 1/2 hours until 12:30 a.m.
the kids were concerned about her. they don't know whether she's dead, or has followed through on her abandonment threat. They stay up waiting.
they call her sister, they call boyfriend bob - neither has heard from her. she didn't take her cell phone.
She comes home. They challenge her. she says "oh, i forgot my cell phone", son points out she could have used a payphone...
She launches into some shit she's read in a book by Dr. Wayne Dyer (some book - i think by him - i'll confirm...). She keeps the kids up until 1:30 a.m. engaged in some psycho drama.
This is on a Sunday night. That would be a school night. And then when son doesn't make it to school today, she comes home and bitches at him.
I am at a loss for words.
“All I want is for the baby to be healthy!”
8 months ago
8 comments:
This is the ole "I'll show you" thing. She went and hid for two hours to see how concerned everybody would be. I think, don't feed it, just keep an eye on it. Make a record of it for future use and make sure the kids can get you if they need you.
Both Buddha and Haaa have nailed it. If she does it again they should just go to bed. No more negative attention for psycho mom. This might be a silly question, but why can't they live with you full time?
W.
Ugh! Just Ugh...
I agree with Budda.. but also .. why cant u just take the kids.. and keep them away from their mother.. who in the long run.. will mess with their lives totally until they are lost adults ... sorry to be so blunt but I really dislike this woman STRONGLY! she is not a mother she is a parasite.. sorry..
Yeah, Cad....what everybody else said.
Your ex is a lunatic.
Your children do NOT need to be exposed to her.
She is damaging them.
Daily.
Mr. C. . . she is still manipulating. She just wants attention.
Don't engage in the moment. . . she relishes the thought of you coming in and having a big fit over her actions.
Stop sending the kids. Don't allow them to be abused emotionally.
Ciao
I'd tell the kids that if mom disappears they should just call you and come to your house. I assume they have keys.
She'll realize manipulating them doesn't work well when they disappear on her and spoil her grand re-entrance!
It's entirely OK to acknowledge that some people just never grow up or mature. Think of her as the prodigal adult. She never made it. You're on your own and you're the only responsible parent your kids have.
Do not feel guilty realizing that that IS the situation. Just continue to face up to it, as you always have and forget you ever expected her to be an adult. She is not. She stopped at 15.
Long after you your kids will ascribe their common sense, their maturity, their responsibility, their wits and their devotion to their partners ... to you.
Hugs,
Kristin
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