backlash

daughter called me at lunchtime yesterday. she was in tears.

her mother had just said no to a sleepover this next weekend. because daughter had told her that she was bi-sexual. and that stbx didn't know if daughter's friend... "how do i know that she's not your lover?"

daughter was REALLY upset

she cried for most of the noon hour. she was still angry last night and this morning.

i let her stay home in the afternoon yesterday because she had cried so hard and so long she had a brutal headache and her face was kind of swollen.

son and her decided they would "battle" their mother on the subject.

took daughter (and son) for all-you-can-eat sushi last night to distract them. i was tired and didn't want to cook after my day at work and after dealing with soothing the kids.

we had fun.

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i told daughter that she could have sleepovers at my place and that son could either crash on the couch or stay at his grandparents' place to facilitate her sleepover (son and daughter share a room - bunkbeds)

son was supportive of this plan

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stbx called me this morning.

she is in serious financial difficulty and wants me to allow her to access the equit line of credit.

i told her to send me a proposal

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she also raised the issue with daughter and the sleepover.

she tried to get me to support her decision

i told her i disagreed fundamentally with her actions and that i thought that she should allow it to go ahead.

i pointed out that son had actually slept on the other side of the bed from a gay guy on a band trip and she didn't have an issue with it.

her counter is that son is not gay.

i pointed out that daughter's friend is not either. stbx asked how she could know that. i said daughter told her. she said she didn't know if she could believe daughter. i told her she had to just make a choice to believe her or not.

stbx caved on the issue

she said she would allow the sleepover.

she attempted to go into a whole bunch of other parenting issues and into how her life sucks and she can't cope with everything - especially parenting.

she went on about how she couldn't talk about issues like daughter's bi-sexuality with her family. that she needed someone to talk to about parenting and the kids.

she immediately went off on more teary eyed crap about how tough her life is

i told her that i had no intention of having an extended conversation on any subject, and that she had burned far too many bridges with things like false accusations of rape for us to be having swell mutually supportive conversations

i then advised her i needed to go and ended the conversation